November 8 2025 10 Years

It's been ten years which is long enough to have forgotten the sound of her voice and also the way she challenged most every thing I said. 

It's been long enough that I miss her confidence way more than the frustration when she took to her bed or slashed out at others.

These days I try to maintain a few of her traditions, like her Pilgrim candles, rather than focus on her perspectives.

After a decade, I focus on the good she did and the love she gave rather than on the anger when I forgot to acknowledge a for-her-important-date.

These days, I am glad I learned about the strength in a family, the grace of giving to others, and the power of forgiveness.